As we move through this collective grief experience, the Wendt Center recognizes the need to provide some strategies for self-care. Finding the time to care for ourselves can often be experienced as “one more thing” to check off our to-do list, yet it is vital that we are intentional with incorporating small ways to tend to own well-being during this difficult time. The Wendt Center understands that right now there may be a lack of time, energy, motivation, and support. This document is meant to offer you support and encouragement as you try to find ways to incorporate even a few five-minute breaks during the day, which can have a restorative benefit.
Find Small Moments for Yourself
Take a ‘micro-break’
Take a walk in nature
Journal
Have a dance party at home
Drink water for hydration
Create a collage with old magazines
Grow things
Cook a favorite dish
Listen to music for the mood you want
Reframe thoughts
Find a hobby or revisit an old one
Stretch for 10 minutes
Listen to inspiring podcasts
Create a ‘well done’ list
Think of food in terms of energy
Ask for help
Establish a solid daily routine
Create a “funny file”
These small moments build up. To inspire your self-care practice, here are some specific ways you can create small moments each day:
Micro Break Inspiration
- Listen to a recorded meditation.
- Love on your pet for a few minutes.
- Breathe in essential oils/pleasant smells to “reset” the mind.
- List three things for which you are grateful.
- Turn up your favorite song and sing along in your loudest voice.
- Wash your hands and observe the water going down the drain; mindfully focus and imagine your difficulties and challenges of the moment going away with the water.
Reframing Thoughts Inspiration
- Instead of, “I am trapped at home with nothing to do,” tell yourself — “I am engaging in physical distancing for the health of myself, family and community.”
- Rather than, “I can’t believe I have to go to work during this time!” consider — “I need to go to work, but I am taking precautions to keep myself as safe as possible.”
- Create a well done list: “I played with my child for 10 minutes.” “I took time for myself when I needed it.”
Physical Distancing Inspiration
- Walk alone mindfully. Notice the sights and sounds as you move through the space. Focus on the lifting and placing of your feet.
- Drive with the windows down. Notice the breeze, sounds, smells.
- Take a virtual tour of a museum.
- Listen to an inspiring podcast.
- Attend a free concert on Instagram.
Connection Inspiration
- Set up a time to meet with friends virtually.
- Start a virtual book club.
- Write and mail letters to loved ones.
- Plan a movie night where you and a friend both watch a movie at the same time and virtually come together afterwards to discuss.
- Sing a song with family or strangers.
- Make a list of people you can reach out to when you are struggling.
Move Back and Forth between Activities
Our brains often need a break from a certain type of activity. Try moving back and forth between activities that use the right brain and left brain:
Left Brain
- Complete work tasks.
- Read a book.
- Plan for the upcoming week.
- Do a household chore.
- Look for project ideas or on-line courses to take.
- Exercise.
- Play a game.
- Complete a puzzle.
Right Brain
- Listen to music for the mood you want: fast tempo to get energy, slow tempo to relax.
- Write in a journal using a prompt: What am I experiencing in my body right now?
- Write in a journal after reading an inspiring article or quote.
- Color a mandala or other coloring sheet.
- Watch something that makes you laugh.
Consider How to Structure Your Day
While routines may be challenging to keep during COVID-19, you can attempt to move through your day with some intention by focusing on small actions that promote well-being and connection with self. Here are some suggestions for your morning, daytime, and evening routine:
Morning Routine Ideas
- Create a prayer, affirmation or mantra you say to yourself each morning to set the tone.
- Set an intention for your day (i.e., openness, patience, gentleness).
- If you have plants, water them thinking about life, growth, and successes you have witnessed in the last week.
- Stretch your body.
Daytime Routine Ideas
- Each time the phone rings, wait for the third ring while you center yourself with intention.
- Resist the urge to check or immediately respond to text messages – before you do, take a micro break.
- TAKE YOUR LUNCH BREAK! Eat slowly noticing textures, tastes, temperatures. Think of how the food nourishes you and what made this nourishment possible.
- Set a timer that goes off every 1-2 hours and take a micro break.
Evening Routine Ideas
- Straighten or dismantle your work space, change your clothes, choose an end of work day song and move your body.
- Engage with family through games, stories and art. Do a feelings check-in. How are you today? Any worries you’d like to discuss?
- Read or listen to an engaging, non-work related book (libraries have free audio book collections) or journal while having a cup of tea.
- Avoid social media and news.
Remember, any small moment you create to care for yourself is a victory!
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